I am lucky to have called Ron a friend. I met him through Julie. Julie and I lived together for many years and it was always a good time when Ron came for a visit. He was one of the good guys and he will be missed by many.
Ron and I attended Ringling together, were neighbors on 25th street and ran parallel careers after college in the broadcast, animation and design arenas. Ron was one of my best friends in school. His passion and edge to do things as big and as cool as he could always put him on the cutting edge competitively.
We had a mini Ringling Reunion a couple of years ago here in Sarasota with a few close friends; Gigi, Lisa Kelly, Pam, Anita, Mary Lisa and myself. It was the first time I had seen him in over 20 years. That was a very special time for us all. Getting Ron to be with us was a really big deal and we all savored our time together and made a lot of new memories.
I remember how grateful Ron felt to be with us and how important it was for us to have him as well. That weekend we grew as friends to know in our hearts who we were in school and who we are now. Our wisdom, strength, life experiences, loves and losses were all shared and helped us remember how valuable good friends are to have.
I knew Ron went through some very tough times and it was difficult for me to see where it burdened him. I was there for him and championed him in his resolve to the level that he would allow.
In all that we shared what I will carry with me is that in our days together we shined and brought a great deal of humor and inspiration to one another. Ron always kept me at the edge of my game and challenged me to be the best I could be. Ron always did that for himself, he was his own gauge of success and pushed further than most people I have known.
I am grateful for his friendship. I am inspired by his creativity and what he did with abilities while he could.
May he be at rest now with all that ailed him, and may he be elevated in his heavenly perspective upon his life, friends and family.
Ron I love you brother and I'll keep a light in my heart for the best of who you are, your light and memory will always shine brightly and we will remember you in all our future Ringling reunions for all our days.
I got to know Ron when I started dating Lou. He always had a great story to tell, was always jet setting all around, had the coolest car I've ever known someone to have (the black NSX), welcomed me and my friends into his home, had actual art work (not prints from a store), I loved his diner booth, he loved pizza and steak (not together), gave Lou's dog Cleo hot dogs right out of the refrigerator (which Cleo LOVED), was the first person I ever had seen kite surf, told Lou I had pretty feet (I liked that compliment!), had a good heart and talked about his family a lot (!!!). I am so glad he was part of our wedding in 2000 and he will be missed but most of all remembered fondly with smiles and good memories. In our hearts, Kelli
I am so saddened to hear about Ron. I have known him for many years through my husband Frank. We had many good times. He was a kind and caring person. I send my deepest sympathy to his family and friends. May he rest in peace. Sandy Nemis
There are so many thoughts and feelings running through my head and my heart, that I can't even process right now. Ron, you were a brother to me and your family has meant so much to me over the years...even though we have been in touch sporadically over the years since college, you have never been far from our family's hearts and we have missed you, even more now... Our prayers have been with you and for you and we will now direct our them heavenward for your Mom, Todd, and Julie, for their comfort and peace during this very very hard time. With Love, Mark
Mark has said it better than I could, it has been years since High School and our trips to Fort Desoto but I will always remember Ron's smile and kindness. My thoughts and prayers to his friends and family. Lisa Sharik
I have fond memories of listening to Journey and looking at the night sky, while sitting on the beach with Ron.......much love and prayers to Todd, Julie and Marilyn
The first thing I think of is the first time I saw Ron at 306 Bomb Squad in Sarasota playing the part of bouncer at the door. He had to have been the cutest guy in town. He had a big smile & a way about him that pulled you in. Ron was in all my classes at RSAD 1985-1987 & a great talent. Steve said it so well...our reunion with him in Nov 2009 was something I will never forget. It was a small enough group that we really got to visit with each other. Ron will be missed by many many friends he touched over the years. I'm sending love and prayers to his dear family.
I am almost beyond words, which is good I suppose since words are so inadequate at a time like this. Ron was so well-loved by so many; I'm sure he knew that and yet that love never seemed to bring him the peace he sought. As write this, the lyrics of Starry Starry Night are floating through my head: "this world was never meant for one as beautiful as you". He was so talented, so wildly creative. I've never known anyone like him, so driven in his craft to do what no one else had even conceived of doing. I remember those times when Ron smiled and laughed with such light in his eyes, and also those times when he struggled just to make sense of it all.
Lord, I pray Ron has found a place with you, a place where, as you promise, "there will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, where you will wipe every tear from his eyes. (Rev 21)” For Marilyn, Todd and Julie, I pray that God will grant you that peace that passes all understanding. May you gain strength from knowing that Ron was precious to us all. We will never forget him. With love,
As my brother, Mark, and sister, Whitney, have said above... you were so well-loved by us all Ron, and you will be missed. My prayers go out to you in heaven, hoping you've found the peace you deserve, and to your Mother, Todd and Julie, hoping that, as time passes, wonderful memories of your life and talents will fill our hearts. With love, Kimberly
I am so very sad to hear the news of Ron's passing. There are no words that can take away the pain of the loss of someone you love and respect. I have such fond memories of Ron during our high school days on the soccer field. Ron had a way of knowing what to say to make any situation seem so much better,, His bright eyes and beautiful smile didn't hurt either !! He always had a kind word to make me smile. I hope he is at peace and is smiling down upon us now. MaryEllen Kostas Pierson
I was so sad today to learn of my high school friend's passing. Ron was a wonderful friend and person. I too remember his wonderful smile and eyes that shone when he spoke to you. I remember the wonderful drawings he would do, even in psychology class on notebook paper. He would show them to me as he sat in front of me during the lecture, yes drawing instead of listening to the teacher. I had not seen him since shortly after high school but ran into him 15 years ago or so on Sunset Beach, and he was just as warm and smiling and friendly as ever. Still the same wonderful Ron, and we visited as if time had stood still. My thoughts go out to his family and friends. We will all miss him. Caryn
We are very sad to hear about Ron passing. He is a great friend for almost 20 years. He often comes out to Hawaii for hikes and hang out with me. He was in our wedding party as a groom man. I am so glad I had meet him on the beach with his friend John Guidera. We had so much fun together. I'll definitely miss Ron, his voice, his love and his friendship.
We were all very saddened to hear of Ron’s sudden passing. When I heard, memories of our family’s visits to the Wissing family when we were younger came rushing back to me. I remember my cousin Ron as being a vibrant, strong, athletic, smart, creative person that loved to joke around and always had this mischievous smile on his face. Oh yeah, and the only person that I ever knew that could ride a unicycle! As life seems to do, distance and time separates families and contact between them dwindles and we always wish there is more time to stay connected. To Marilyn, Todd and Julie, we are so very sorry. May your happy memories of Ron and the love you shared together be the strength you draw upon to comfort you during this time. With all of our love. Julie (Sowan) and Jerry Seeley
I am stunned and sadden to hear of Ron's passing. I remember after we graduated from Ringling he moved up to Atlanta for a short time. He had me over to show me his great loft apartment in Vinings. (I never found such a great place myself)! He was a beautiful person and a fabulous artist, he will truly be missed. My heart and prayers go out to his family and friends. We love you Ron.
Ron was very special to our family. We loved him very much. We will greatly miss him. Our thoughts and prayers go out to his family and friends. May he rest in peace. Love, Cori, Gerald and Deborah Mullan
I felt my heart break when I received the news earlier this week. I was in Key West, where I have many found memories of Ron as we visited there together years ago... He was my very BEST guy friend. I have loved him for 18 or so years and will continue to carry him through my memories and the many photos I have. He has held my hand, gave me hugs, and played with my children... The last conversation I had with him, he told me he loved me....I will treasure those words and always hold them close. Sleep well in the arms of the Angels...I will miss you beyond words. With love, Nola
Ron was very perceptive and could sense a person's need for a friend before they even uttered a word. He saw through my stiff upper lip many times and in fact rescued me from an ugly situation that could have been disastrous for me. I hope he knew I would have done the same for him, though my perceptions of others needs were not as keen as his!
I am very saddened to hear of Ron's passing. We worked together on a number of projects years ago. He was one of the most amazing graphics designers I ever worked with. Full of life and ideas. Ahead of his time, really. Fun to work with. He brought life to the projects. He will be missed by many, I'm sure. God's peace to his family. Jeff McCusker, Va Beach, VA
I really wanted to tell Ron's family what a generous person Ron was with me. I met Ron at Dave and Cheryl Taschler's wedding when he was the best man. He was hilarious and made everyone have fun! He then came to the post house I was working at (Henninger Video) in Washington, D.C. to teach the Flame system. He was such a talented and creative person. During the training he encouraged me to apply for a job at Discreet Logic. He said, "You can do this job, you're perfect for this!" I was intimidated because I was an assistant at the time but he put in a good word for me and I got the job! 17 years later I'm now the Technical Specialist Manager for Autodesk who acquired Discreet in 1999. I met my wife and most of my current friends because of Ron, like Frank Nemis who is like a brother of mine. Anyway, I'm sad that Ron has passed but he had such a positive impact while he was here. I just wanted you to know... All the best, Bill Ennis
Overnight, on graduating from Ringling and arriving in New York City, Ron became a man and a professional talent. He arrived with appointments which became offers for employment and projects for the new generation of creative leaders in the electronic age.
His reel of work expanded in volume but more importantly improved in quality and uniqueness with every campaign he conceived, and they were many. As computer graphics and internet communications soared, he became a leader in the thrilling new medium mixing art, words, music and motion in new ways. He led the profession and was recognized by the field for his innovation, creativity and very long hours of dedicated work.
The optimism of the little blonde boy I first encountered, sustained and motivated him just as his loving family supported his work and his heart. The young boy, the young man, the seasoned professional all embodied Ron’s special smile, easy laugh, thoughtfulness, affection and help for everyone in his orbit…He had a special brilliance like the sun so that he was able to touch us, warm us, and comfort us.
Everyone who knew dear Ron will miss his radiance.
I rolled down these streets your story to tell.. Lives suddenly plunged into a fiery hell Lining the sidewalks their faces of fear Looking for loved ones drawing them near
The cries of the families as i rolled on by The pain now mine as I looked in their eyes Your memories haunt me like ghosts of the past never to loose sight of the visions that last
You are someones friend and someones brother I am someone like you that has a mother... I am someones Love and someones Hate I am someone Lost and someone great
As we stand beside our loved ones gathered The world now knows we were someone that mattered.....
Dedicate this to Ron for the impact of 9/11 not only changed the world....... It changed his view of the world... His sensitive soul could not bear the pain...The day that terror poured out its rain..... Love you ron will hold you dear now and always......Thank you for loving so deeply....
Terryanne, Thank-you for expressing through rhyme what must have been Ron's emotions and thoughts those days after the tragedy when there was no transportation. As he rollerbladed up to ABC he passed those looking for loved ones and you described the thoughts he may have had. Once there,it was his job to work with the newscasters trying to convey to Americans watching TV what had happened, without showing many of the horrific realities....those realities, that became embedded in his memory. I know he knew you understood, Terryanne. Marilyn Wissing
I was right out of school and didn't know Ron, but I bugged someone enough at Discreet Logic and they finally said -- "you should call Ron Wissing." I thought that this guy was just trying to get rid of me but I didn't care because maybe this person named Ron would tell me of someone else to call and just keep the "blow this guy off" chain going. Well, he didn't -- he not only listened to me talk about what I wanted to do but he told me of a Post House in Tampa to call and mention his name... I did that and got my first job which turned into a career of first doing Flame and then into what I do now; working as an editor in Los Angeles. That's how I met Ron and things would not have been the same without his help in my life.
So I'm writing this on Christmas -- I'm not sure why Ron's name came into my head -- but I decided to do a google search on him to see what he was up to -- I was stunned to see that he had passed away. It's been 10 years since we talked but I still remember his desire to help me and then follow through -- making sure I was OK at the new job he helped me get.
My thoughts and prayers are with those that loved and knew Ron and I'm just glad I had a chance to know him myself.
Dear Bb , Bill Ennis, Colin and all others for whom I have no address. Your words have meant more than you can know to Ron's brother, sister and me and I appreciate your taking the time to show your gratitude. He did try to help others along the paths of their careers as many had helped him. I was so proud that he saw the need to keep those favors moving, with his generous heart. We have learned that heart failed after a coronary, but the memory of his deeds and creative talents will not fail us as long as people like you continue to remember...
It's been an entire year since Ron passed and it doesn't seem that long ago. The past few weeks Ron has been on my mind a lot as this anniversary was approaching. Last year I didn't have the words to express how sad, sorrowful, dejected, heart-broken, it made it me feel. I would start to write something and it would just run off into so much rambling and disjointed thoughts of tribute, expectancy, regret, love, guilt, and so many other feelings that I just couldn't make sense of it all. Thank you to all the people that did post on this blog. You helped Ron's family as well as many of us who were counted among his friends. So perhaps now with a little perspective I can express how much Ron meant to me.
While Ron struggled, I tried to be there for him; I tried to offer advice and support, but no one except Ron knew what he was up against. I stopped answering the midnight calls, and would try in vain the next day. Eventually we would catch each other and see what each other was up to. Ron's answer was always the same "Nothing good". It wasn't true, he had people in his life, lovers, friends and family. Our calls dropped off, he stopped calling in the middle of the night, to my relief and worry.
After he died i thought about him continuously. I cried a lot, at stupid times: at work, on the subway, watching TV, working in the yard. Eventually it eased.
Now there are days, stretches of them, that I just don't think of Ron anymore. It's not that I don't miss him, I do, but I don't think about him as often. I suppose that's how grief works, little by little the immediacy of life takes over again. He'll never be gone though, We've shared too much, for too long, to be forgotten entirely. He was my classmate, my roommate, my best man and my best friend. Even though Ron is gone, he will always be with me.
Here are a few of the ways Ron remains in my life. Whenever I run across a particularly aggravating design problem, I try to think what would Ron do? I know he would have handled it easily.
Whenever I talk to my nieces and nephews. it reminds me of how much Ron adored Kyle and Jen. Thanks to you both for supporting me while I was there. Marilyn, Todd, Jill, Julie, you all made feel like family and I can't thank you enough.
I started teaching at American University this past semester and I think Ron would have liked doing that. When we first started out Ron would fiercely guard his tricks and trade secrets. That changed later on in his career as he started showing people how to do things. Anytime I'm teaching someone about compositing, I feel like it's a tribute to the way Ron taught so many of us and brought so many of us into his world.
Whenever my Art Director mixes metaphors. Ron was fond of "Crazy like the Wolf" and "Taking the Bull by the Balls" Whenever my office-mates turn around in their chair the way Ron did I can almost see Ron. Frank and Bill know that look. If we laughed, Ron would just laugh at himself and tell us to... (fill in your favorite expletive) Whenever someone at the bar orders a Jagermeister. So gross. Whenever someone feeds my dog from the table. Whenever I get passed on the road by a black NSX. Whenever I pass a skinny blonde girl on the street. Whenever I hear U2 , The Verve's Bittersweet Symphony, or Send Me an Angel - I never knew why he liked this song. - http://youtu.be/D6zBjYIyz-0 I'm sure there are more and I know all of you have them too. It keeps him in your heart. I'm lucky to have two brothers that I'm extremely close with and I felt like Ron was one of them. I will continue to miss him, even if I don't think of him every day.
Dave, I too was in a state of shock and still am to some extent. I write some but not ready to share much. I appreciate that you are willing to share your memories with us - some made me laugh, some made me cry - yet all were very particularly Ronisms. I remember Virginia Beach the "cool" place you guys had and I thought, I my, this is trouble with a capital T. Especially since both of you were sporting such long hair at the Family Channel I just knew they would kick you out or show up with some scissors one day.
You were and still are an amazing brother to Ron, often there in ways a family can't or won't be. He never doubted your unconditional love, which is what his heart really sought all the years of his life, and you gave him that gift.
So brother, Ron may be gone from here, watching over us and yes, continue to think "what would Ron do" - I do it often and I believe I get answers from him. You are still a part of the Wissing gang and I am honored, blessed and so thankful to have you in my life.
So, I've been struggling with whether or not to comment ever since I learned this morning that Ron had passed away. I was very stunned and saddened by the news. Had he been ill? I guess I'm still in a state of disbelief.
I met Ron in the early 1990s when I worked at the front desk of the Founders Inn, which is where he stayed when he first started working over at Family Channel. I learned three things about him: 1)He was a Diet Coke addict. I seem to recall a request to have his room stocked with extra cans one time. 2)He enjoyed working out. He told me on more than one occasion about how much the stair stepper kicked his butt. 3)He worked A LOT. Lots of long hours, lots of late nights.
I always looked forward to his time at FC. He was such a nice person, and he went out of his way to say hello to me whenever he passed through the lobby. On the rare occasion that he had a little bit of down time, he would stop by the desk and chat with me in the evenings when things were slow. Eventually, when some changes were made at Family Channel, Ron's visits became fewer and far between. But whenever he did come to town, we would get together for lunch or dinner and catch up.
We kept in touch over the years via snail mail or the occasional phone call. I received many post cards from him from all over the US, and even some from Europe. I still have them, and I just reread them all a little while ago. It put a smile on my face to relive some fond memories. In one of them, I could practically see the huge grin on his face as he told me about his new NSX. In another, he told me that he visited Elvis, and Elvis wanted to know when I was going to visit the mouse with the big ears in Florida and that I worked too much. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black! :) I had a great chuckle at that one.
We soon lost touch with each other, but I thought about him often, especially around his birthday. The last email I received from him was in late April 2002. I remember he (jokingly) asked if I was still single. I wrote back and told him that I was single, as in unmarried, but that was going to change in just a few days. Sadly, he never responded. I tried to get in touch with him periodically after that to say hello, wish him a happy birthday, etc., but I never heard back from him. I always wondered where he was and how he was doing. I was talking to some old coworkers of mine the other day, reminiscing about the good old days at Founders Inn, and he came to mind. So on a whim I decided to Google him to see if I could find him. My heart sank when I saw "Ron Wissing obituary" come up.
Please accept my heartfelt condolences. I will always remember his smile and how he made ME smile.
Eva, Thank you for remembering Ron. I know he is smiling, above, as he works with his fellow angels doing God's work. I'm sure he is watching over you and all who touched his life and whose lives he touched with his warm heart-the heart that failed in 2011.
So much more than three lessons, but this is what I have today.
As the day seems like yesterday, the wound in my heart still fresh It has already been two years since your death. You are still my loving brother, a brother’s loving brother and the brave son to my mother. You are my idol, my best friend, my unconditional loving confident and friend to many – some I know, some I know in my heart may have been in your life but a few brief minutes, yet their lives were changed forever.
Through this process I have nothing to lean on but the message from God, What am I to learn from you being with Him, so early, and I still here in flesh?
Compassion, to truly understand the seething pain from MY loss, my brother’s gain. When I learn of a friend, community member or complete strangers’ loss of any nature, I feel the pierce in my heart, followed by a deep desire to quell the pain with words of comfort, a tight hug, a smile when smiling never seems possible again. This is lesson one.
Take care, make time, listen for you, listen for Him. Care for myself - mind, body, soul and most importantly spirit - my relationship with God. When I feel like I need to “stay busy” to run from the feelings, I stay in the moment – and eventually – over time, I have found a smile, a memory that was only my bro, remember the words of someone’s life he impacted in a profound way. The stories have been there, I’m so grateful to those that share their memories. Providing a new understanding, a new opportunity to learn from his life such that I may look deep into mine. This is lesson two.
Life is love, health is wealth, speak the truth, close distance, forgive, move swiftly, stay in action, help others, love. To truly be God like, which my brother had more characteristics than I saw when he was here, I must love unconditionally. I must have patience, lack judgment, provide the second, third and fourth opportunity – whatever it takes - to “make it right” and others to “make it right” with me. Until the day he died, no matter what happened in my life, what atrocity I felt I had committed or insecurity was keeping me from moving forward. He was quick to my defense, reminding me, in whatever way possible, that I was good enough. I was better than good enough, I was his Jewelsy, his sister. He would say, “you know why I know, because you're my sister” and always ended it with I love you. This is lesson three.
Happy birthday, Ron. I'm sure you're up there kicking the stair stepper's butt :) Work out extra hard for me. I'm planning on hitting Outback soon. I always enjoyed our catch-up dinners there. I'll have a steak in your honor.
Five years to the day: August 7, on a Sunday, as today, when I found you had passed at 2pm. I hope to find a means to honor the contribution you made as a pioneer in computer animation through the support you received from professors at Ringling School for the Arts. Other young men and women will hopefully find the means to be fulfilled through a scholarship in your name.... and now Bud Myrick is there with you - two angels that will help with this cause...<3
Today, like every day, we think of Ron. It has been five years but I remember like yesterday. You are with God and always within us. Take care, brother.
I am lucky to have called Ron a friend. I met him through Julie. Julie and I lived together for many years and it was always a good time when Ron came for a visit. He was one of the good guys and he will be missed by many.
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Lynne
Ron and I attended Ringling together, were neighbors on 25th street and ran parallel careers after college in the broadcast, animation and design arenas. Ron was one of my best friends in school. His passion and edge to do things as big and as cool as he could always put him on the cutting edge competitively.
ReplyDeleteWe had a mini Ringling Reunion a couple of years ago here in Sarasota with a few close friends; Gigi, Lisa Kelly, Pam, Anita, Mary Lisa and myself. It was the first time I had seen him in over 20 years. That was a very special time for us all. Getting Ron to be with us was a really big deal and we all savored our time together and made a lot of new memories.
I remember how grateful Ron felt to be with us and how important it was for us to have him as well. That weekend we grew as friends to know in our hearts who we were in school and who we are now. Our wisdom, strength, life experiences, loves and losses were all shared and helped us remember how valuable good friends are to have.
I knew Ron went through some very tough times and it was difficult for me to see where it burdened him. I was there for him and championed him in his resolve to the level that he would allow.
In all that we shared what I will carry with me is that in our days together we shined and brought a great deal of humor and inspiration to one another. Ron always kept me at the edge of my game and challenged me to be the best I could be. Ron always did that for himself, he was his own gauge of success and pushed further than most people I have known.
I am grateful for his friendship. I am inspired by his creativity and what he did with abilities while he could.
May he be at rest now with all that ailed him, and may he be elevated in his heavenly perspective upon his life, friends and family.
Ron I love you brother and I'll keep a light in my heart for the best of who you are, your light and memory will always shine brightly and we will remember you in all our future Ringling reunions for all our days.
Steven
I got to know Ron when I started dating Lou. He always had a great story to tell, was always jet setting all around, had the coolest car I've ever known someone to have (the black NSX), welcomed me and my friends into his home, had actual art work (not prints from a store), I loved his diner booth, he loved pizza and steak (not together), gave Lou's dog Cleo hot dogs right out of the refrigerator (which Cleo LOVED), was the first person I ever had seen kite surf, told Lou I had pretty feet (I liked that compliment!), had a good heart and talked about his family a lot (!!!). I am so glad he was part of our wedding in 2000 and he will be missed but most of all remembered fondly with smiles and good memories. In our hearts, Kelli
ReplyDeleteI am so saddened to hear about Ron. I have known him for many years through my husband Frank. We had many good times. He was a kind and caring person. I send my deepest sympathy to his family and friends. May he rest in peace.
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There are so many thoughts and feelings running through my head and my heart, that I can't even process right now. Ron, you were a brother to me and your family has meant so much to me over the years...even though we have been in touch sporadically over the years since college, you have never been far from our family's hearts and we have missed you, even more now...
ReplyDeleteOur prayers have been with you and for you and we will now direct our them heavenward for your Mom, Todd, and Julie, for their comfort and peace during this very very hard time. With Love, Mark
Mark has said it better than I could, it has been years since High School and our trips to Fort Desoto but I will always remember Ron's smile and kindness. My thoughts and prayers to his friends and family.
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I have fond memories of listening to Journey and looking at the night sky, while sitting on the beach with Ron.......much love and prayers to Todd, Julie and Marilyn
ReplyDeleteThe first thing I think of is the first time I saw Ron at 306 Bomb Squad in Sarasota playing the part of bouncer at the door. He had to have been the cutest guy in town. He had a big smile & a way about him that pulled you in. Ron was in all my classes at RSAD 1985-1987 & a great talent. Steve said it so well...our reunion with him in Nov 2009 was something I will never forget. It was a small enough group that we really got to visit with each other. Ron will be missed by many many friends he touched over the years. I'm sending love and prayers to his dear family.
ReplyDeleteI am almost beyond words, which is good I suppose since words are so inadequate at a time like this. Ron was so well-loved by so many; I'm sure he knew that and yet that love never seemed to bring him the peace he sought. As write this, the lyrics of Starry Starry Night are floating through my head: "this world was never meant for one as beautiful as you". He was so talented, so wildly creative. I've never known anyone like him, so driven in his craft to do what no one else had even conceived of doing. I remember those times when Ron smiled and laughed with such light in his eyes, and also those times when he struggled just to make sense of it all.
ReplyDeleteLord, I pray Ron has found a place with you, a place where, as you promise, "there will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, where you will wipe every tear from his eyes. (Rev 21)” For Marilyn, Todd and Julie, I pray that God will grant you that peace that passes all understanding. May you gain strength from knowing that Ron was precious to us all. We will never forget him. With love,
As my brother, Mark, and sister, Whitney, have said above... you were so well-loved by us all Ron, and you will be missed. My prayers go out to you in heaven, hoping you've found the peace you deserve, and to your Mother, Todd and Julie, hoping that, as time passes, wonderful memories of your life and talents will fill our hearts. With love,
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I am so very sad to hear the news of Ron's passing. There are no words that can take away the pain of the loss of someone you love and respect. I have such fond memories of Ron during our high school days on the soccer field. Ron had a way of knowing what to say to make any situation seem so much better,, His bright eyes and beautiful smile didn't hurt either !! He always had a kind word to make me smile. I hope he is at peace and is smiling down upon us now. MaryEllen Kostas Pierson
ReplyDeleteI was so sad today to learn of my high school friend's passing. Ron was a wonderful friend and person. I too remember his wonderful smile and eyes that shone when he spoke to you. I remember the wonderful drawings he would do, even in psychology class on notebook paper. He would show them to me as he sat in front of me during the lecture, yes drawing instead of listening to the teacher. I had not seen him since shortly after high school but ran into him 15 years ago or so on Sunset Beach, and he was just as warm and smiling and friendly as ever. Still the same wonderful Ron, and we visited as if time had stood still. My thoughts go out to his family and friends. We will all miss him. Caryn
ReplyDeleteWe are very sad to hear about Ron passing. He is a great friend for almost 20 years. He often comes out to Hawaii for hikes and hang out with me. He was in our wedding party as a groom man. I am so glad I had meet him on the beach with his friend John Guidera. We had so much fun together. I'll definitely miss Ron, his voice, his love and his friendship.
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We were all very saddened to hear of Ron’s sudden passing. When I heard, memories of our family’s visits to the Wissing family when we were younger came rushing back to me. I remember my cousin Ron as being a vibrant, strong, athletic, smart, creative person that loved to joke around and always had this mischievous smile on his face. Oh yeah, and the only person that I ever knew that could ride a unicycle! As life seems to do, distance and time separates families and contact between them dwindles and we always wish there is more time to stay connected. To Marilyn, Todd and Julie, we are so very sorry. May your happy memories of Ron and the love you shared together be the strength you draw upon to comfort you during this time. With all of our love. Julie (Sowan) and Jerry Seeley
ReplyDeleteI am stunned and sadden to hear of Ron's passing. I remember after we graduated from Ringling he moved up to Atlanta for a short time. He had me over to show me his great loft apartment in Vinings. (I never found such a great place myself)! He was a beautiful person and a fabulous artist, he will truly be missed. My heart and prayers go out to his family and friends. We love you Ron.
ReplyDeleteRon was very special to our family. We loved him very much. We will greatly miss him. Our thoughts and prayers go out to his family and friends. May he rest in peace. Love, Cori, Gerald and Deborah Mullan
ReplyDeleteI felt my heart break when I received the news earlier this week. I was in Key West, where I have many found memories of Ron as we visited there together years ago... He was my very BEST guy friend. I have loved him for 18 or so years and will continue to carry him through my memories and the many photos I have. He has held my hand, gave me hugs, and played with my children... The last conversation I had with him, he told me he loved me....I will treasure those words and always hold them close. Sleep well in the arms of the Angels...I will miss you beyond words.
ReplyDeleteWith love, Nola
Ron was very perceptive and could sense a person's need for a friend before they even uttered a word. He saw through my stiff upper lip many times and in fact rescued me from an ugly situation that could have been disastrous for me. I hope he knew I would have done the same for him, though my perceptions of others needs were not as keen as his!
ReplyDeleteI am very saddened to hear of Ron's passing. We worked together on a number of projects years ago. He was one of the most amazing graphics designers I ever worked with. Full of life and ideas. Ahead of his time, really. Fun to work with. He brought life to the projects. He will be missed by many, I'm sure. God's peace to his family. Jeff McCusker, Va Beach, VA
ReplyDeleteI really wanted to tell Ron's family what a generous person Ron was with me. I met Ron at Dave and Cheryl Taschler's wedding when he was the best man. He was hilarious and made everyone have fun! He then came to the post house I was working at (Henninger Video) in Washington, D.C. to teach the Flame system. He was such a talented and creative person. During the training he encouraged me to apply for a job at Discreet Logic. He said, "You can do this job, you're perfect for this!" I was intimidated because I was an assistant at the time but he put in a good word for me and I got the job! 17 years later I'm now the Technical Specialist Manager for Autodesk who acquired Discreet in 1999. I met my wife and most of my current friends because of Ron, like Frank Nemis who is like a brother of mine. Anyway, I'm sad that Ron has passed but he had such a positive impact while he was here. I just wanted you to know... All the best, Bill Ennis
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ReplyDeleteOvernight, on graduating from Ringling and arriving in New York City, Ron became a man and a professional talent. He arrived with appointments which became offers for employment and projects for the new generation of creative leaders in the electronic age.
His reel of work expanded in volume but more importantly improved in quality and uniqueness with every campaign he conceived, and they were many. As computer graphics and internet communications soared, he became a leader in the thrilling new medium mixing art, words, music and motion in new ways. He led the profession and was recognized by the field for his innovation, creativity and very long hours of dedicated work.
The optimism of the little blonde boy I first encountered, sustained and motivated him just as his loving family supported his work and his heart. The young boy, the young man, the seasoned professional all embodied Ron’s special smile, easy laugh, thoughtfulness, affection and help for everyone in his orbit…He had a special brilliance like the sun so that he was able to touch us, warm us, and comfort us.
Everyone who knew dear Ron will miss his radiance.
Ted
I rolled down these streets your story to tell..
ReplyDeleteLives suddenly plunged into a fiery hell
Lining the sidewalks their faces of fear
Looking for loved ones drawing them near
The cries of the families as i rolled on by
The pain now mine as I looked in their eyes
Your memories haunt me like ghosts of the past
never to loose sight of the visions that last
You are someones friend and someones brother
I am someone like you that has a mother...
I am someones Love and someones Hate
I am someone Lost and someone great
As we stand beside our loved ones gathered
The world now knows we were someone that mattered.....
Dedicate this to Ron for the impact of 9/11 not only changed the world.......
It changed his view of the world...
His sensitive soul could not bear the pain...The day that terror poured out its rain.....
Love you ron will hold you dear now and always......Thank you for loving so deeply....
Terryanne
9/2011
Terryanne,
ReplyDeleteThank-you for expressing through rhyme what must have been Ron's emotions and thoughts those days after the tragedy when there was no transportation. As he rollerbladed up to ABC he passed those looking for loved ones and you described the thoughts he may have had. Once there,it was his job to work with the newscasters trying to convey to Americans watching TV what had happened, without showing many of the horrific realities....those realities, that became embedded in his memory.
I know he knew you understood, Terryanne.
Marilyn Wissing
I was right out of school and didn't know Ron, but I bugged someone enough at Discreet Logic and they finally said -- "you should call Ron Wissing." I thought that this guy was just trying to get rid of me but I didn't care because maybe this person named Ron would tell me of someone else to call and just keep the "blow this guy off" chain going. Well, he didn't -- he not only listened to me talk about what I wanted to do but he told me of a Post House in Tampa to call and mention his name...
ReplyDeleteI did that and got my first job which turned into a career of first doing Flame and then into what I do now; working as an editor in Los Angeles. That's how I met Ron and things would not have been the same without his help in my life.
So I'm writing this on Christmas -- I'm not sure why Ron's name came into my head -- but I decided to do a google search on him to see what he was up to -- I was stunned to see that he had passed away. It's been 10 years since we talked but I still remember his desire to help me and then follow through -- making sure I was OK at the new job he helped me get.
My thoughts and prayers are with those that loved and knew Ron and I'm just glad I had a chance to know him myself.
Bb
Dear Bb , Bill Ennis, Colin and all others for whom I have no address. Your words have meant more than you can know to Ron's brother, sister and me and I appreciate your taking the time to show your gratitude. He did try to help others along the paths of their careers as many had helped him. I was so proud that he saw the need to keep those favors moving, with his generous heart. We have learned that heart failed after a coronary, but the memory of his deeds and creative talents will not fail us as long as people like you continue to remember...
ReplyDeleteIt's been an entire year since Ron passed and it doesn't seem that long ago. The past few weeks Ron has been on my mind a lot as this anniversary was approaching. Last year I didn't have the words to express how sad, sorrowful, dejected, heart-broken, it made it me feel. I would start to write something and it would just run off into so much rambling and disjointed thoughts of tribute, expectancy, regret, love, guilt, and so many other feelings that I just couldn't make sense of it all. Thank you to all the people that did post on this blog. You helped Ron's family as well as many of us who were counted among his friends. So perhaps now with a little perspective I can express how much Ron meant to me.
ReplyDeleteWhile Ron struggled, I tried to be there for him; I tried to offer advice and support, but no one except Ron knew what he was up against. I stopped answering the midnight calls, and would try in vain the next day. Eventually we would catch each other and see what each other was up to. Ron's answer was always the same "Nothing good".
It wasn't true, he had people in his life, lovers, friends and family. Our calls dropped off, he stopped calling in the middle of the night, to my relief and worry.
After he died i thought about him continuously. I cried a lot, at stupid times: at work, on the subway, watching TV, working in the yard. Eventually it eased.
Now there are days, stretches of them, that I just don't think of Ron anymore.
It's not that I don't miss him, I do, but I don't think about him as often. I suppose that's how grief works, little by little the immediacy of life takes over again.
He'll never be gone though, We've shared too much, for too long, to be forgotten entirely. He was my classmate, my roommate, my best man and my best friend.
Even though Ron is gone, he will always be with me.
Here are a few of the ways Ron remains in my life.
Whenever I run across a particularly aggravating design problem, I try to think what would Ron do? I know he would have handled it easily.
Whenever I talk to my nieces and nephews. it reminds me of how much Ron adored Kyle and Jen. Thanks to you both for supporting me while I was there. Marilyn, Todd, Jill, Julie, you all made feel like family and I can't thank you enough.
I started teaching at American University this past semester and I think Ron would have liked doing that. When we first started out Ron would fiercely guard his tricks and trade secrets. That changed later on in his career as he started showing people how to do things.
Anytime I'm teaching someone about compositing, I feel like it's a tribute to the way Ron taught so many of us and brought so many of us into his world.
Whenever my Art Director mixes metaphors. Ron was fond of "Crazy like the Wolf" and "Taking the Bull by the Balls"
Whenever my office-mates turn around in their chair the way Ron did I can almost see Ron. Frank and Bill know that look. If we laughed, Ron would just laugh at himself and tell us to... (fill in your favorite expletive)
Whenever someone at the bar orders a Jagermeister. So gross.
Whenever someone feeds my dog from the table.
Whenever I get passed on the road by a black NSX.
Whenever I pass a skinny blonde girl on the street.
Whenever I hear U2 , The Verve's Bittersweet Symphony, or Send Me an Angel - I never knew why he liked this song. - http://youtu.be/D6zBjYIyz-0
I'm sure there are more and I know all of you have them too.
It keeps him in your heart. I'm lucky to have two brothers that I'm extremely close with and I felt like Ron was one of them. I will continue to miss him, even if I don't think of him every day.
Dave Taschler
Dave,
DeleteI too was in a state of shock and still am to some extent. I write some but not ready to share much. I appreciate that you are willing to share your memories with us - some made me laugh, some made me cry - yet all were very particularly Ronisms. I remember Virginia Beach the "cool" place you guys had and I thought, I my, this is trouble with a capital T. Especially since both of you were sporting such long hair at the Family Channel I just knew they would kick you out or show up with some scissors one day.
You were and still are an amazing brother to Ron, often there in ways a family can't or won't be. He never doubted your unconditional love, which is what his heart really sought all the years of his life, and you gave him that gift.
So brother, Ron may be gone from here, watching over us and yes, continue to think "what would Ron do" - I do it often and I believe I get answers from him. You are still a part of the Wissing gang and I am honored, blessed and so thankful to have you in my life.
Jewelsy
So, I've been struggling with whether or not to comment ever since I learned this morning that Ron had passed away. I was very stunned and saddened by the news. Had he been ill? I guess I'm still in a state of disbelief.
ReplyDeleteI met Ron in the early 1990s when I worked at the front desk of the Founders Inn, which is where he stayed when he first started working over at Family Channel. I learned three things about him: 1)He was a Diet Coke addict. I seem to recall a request to have his room stocked with extra cans one time. 2)He enjoyed working out. He told me on more than one occasion about how much the stair stepper kicked his butt. 3)He worked A LOT. Lots of long hours, lots of late nights.
I always looked forward to his time at FC. He was such a nice person, and he went out of his way to say hello to me whenever he passed through the lobby. On the rare occasion that he had a little bit of down time, he would stop by the desk and chat with me in the evenings when things were slow. Eventually, when some changes were made at Family Channel, Ron's visits became fewer and far between. But whenever he did come to town, we would get together for lunch or dinner and catch up.
We kept in touch over the years via snail mail or the occasional phone call. I received many post cards from him from all over the US, and even some from Europe. I still have them, and I just reread them all a little while ago. It put a smile on my face to relive some fond memories. In one of them, I could practically see the huge grin on his face as he told me about his new NSX. In another, he told me that he visited Elvis, and Elvis wanted to know when I was going to visit the mouse with the big ears in Florida and that I worked too much. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black! :) I had a great chuckle at that one.
We soon lost touch with each other, but I thought about him often, especially around his birthday. The last email I received from him was in late April 2002. I remember he (jokingly) asked if I was still single. I wrote back and told him that I was single, as in unmarried, but that was going to change in just a few days. Sadly, he never responded. I tried to get in touch with him periodically after that to say hello, wish him a happy birthday, etc., but I never heard back from him. I always wondered where he was and how he was doing. I was talking to some old coworkers of mine the other day, reminiscing about the good old days at Founders Inn, and he came to mind. So on a whim I decided to Google him to see if I could find him. My heart sank when I saw "Ron Wissing obituary" come up.
Please accept my heartfelt condolences. I will always remember his smile and how he made ME smile.
Sincerely,
Eva (Legaspi) Cooke
Happy birthday, Ron. You're in my thoughts.
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Eva,
ReplyDeleteThank you for remembering Ron. I know he is smiling, above, as he works with his fellow angels doing God's work. I'm sure he is watching over you and all who touched his life and whose lives he touched with his warm heart-the heart that failed in 2011.
So much more than three lessons, but this is what I have today.
ReplyDeleteAs the day seems like yesterday, the wound in my heart still fresh
It has already been two years since your death.
You are still my loving brother, a brother’s loving brother and the brave son to my mother.
You are my idol, my best friend, my unconditional loving confident and friend to many – some I know, some I know in my heart may have been in your life but a few brief minutes, yet their lives were changed forever.
Through this process I have nothing to lean on but the message from God,
What am I to learn from you being with Him, so early, and I still here in flesh?
Compassion, to truly understand the seething pain from MY loss, my brother’s gain. When I learn of a friend, community member or complete strangers’ loss of any nature,
I feel the pierce in my heart, followed by a deep desire to quell the pain with words of comfort, a tight hug, a smile when smiling never seems possible again.
This is lesson one.
Take care, make time, listen for you, listen for Him. Care for myself - mind, body, soul and most importantly spirit - my relationship with God. When I feel like I need to “stay busy” to run from the feelings, I stay in the moment – and eventually – over time, I have found a smile, a memory that was only my bro, remember the words of someone’s life he impacted in a profound way. The stories have been there, I’m so grateful to those that share their memories.
Providing a new understanding, a new opportunity to learn from his life such that I may look deep into mine.
This is lesson two.
Life is love, health is wealth, speak the truth, close distance, forgive, move swiftly, stay in action, help others, love.
To truly be God like, which my brother had more characteristics than I saw when he was here, I must love unconditionally. I must have patience, lack judgment, provide the second, third and fourth opportunity – whatever it takes - to “make it right” and others to “make it right” with me. Until the day he died, no matter what happened in my life, what atrocity I felt I had committed or insecurity was keeping me from moving forward. He was quick to my defense, reminding me, in whatever way possible, that I was good enough. I was better than good enough, I was his Jewelsy, his sister. He would say, “you know why I know, because you're my sister” and always ended it with I love you.
This is lesson three.
Happy birthday, Ron. I'm sure you're up there kicking the stair stepper's butt :) Work out extra hard for me. I'm planning on hitting Outback soon. I always enjoyed our catch-up dinners there. I'll have a steak in your honor.
ReplyDeleteThinking of you,
Eva
:-( i'm sad to learn about ron's death. great guy. talented artist. good friend. peace.
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday from Arizona, Ron. I think of you often and smile as I remember our chats at the front desk. You are dearly missed.
ReplyDeleteEva
Five years to the day: August 7, on a Sunday, as today, when I found you had passed at 2pm. I hope to find a means to honor the contribution you made as a pioneer in computer animation through the support you received from professors at Ringling School for the Arts. Other young men and women will hopefully find the means to be fulfilled through a scholarship in your name.... and now Bud Myrick is there with you - two angels that will help with this cause...<3
ReplyDeleteToday, like every day, we think of Ron. It has been five years but I remember like yesterday. You are with God and always within us. Take care, brother.
ReplyDeleteLove, Todd
Was thinking about you today old friend, Miss talking with you.
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